by Jana Galarus, Family Peer Supporter
April 11, 2023
Forgiveness is something that can be described in so many ways by everyone. I describe forgiveness as the power to move on, heal, recover and to have inner peace and grace in life. It takes courage, mental strength, bravery, humility, and compassion. For some of us it also takes emotional and spiritual awareness to forgive.
Maria Edgeworth stated:
“Surely it is much more generous to forgive and remember, than to forgive and forget.”
I am a mom with special needs children and I was taking care of my elderly dad. I remember times in life where I felt like it was me and my family up against the world of administrators, doctors, insurance companies, lawyers and teachers. I was so angry, frustrated and tired of fighting for everyday rights it felt like the weight of the world was on my shoulders. At moments I thought it would be the death of my soul as a person. The bitterness, and frustration of emotions that I was going through was not the person that I am naturally in life. I didn’t understand this at the time.
I eventually forgave them, and myself, but I will never forget. This allowed me and my family the power to be the people that we are today and live healthier and happier lives.
The Bible says, “Forgive them, for they have not known what they do.”
I don’t wish anyone who reads this to take offense as I realize we are all spiritual in different ways.
With years of forgiveness for them and myself I have since allowed some of them to come back into our life. Some of them have since apologized and done right by us.
Maya Angelo said:
“It’s one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself, to forgive. Forgive everybody.”
Forgiveness helps us feel better, it gives us freedom and hopefully it will make us live longer. It will decrease anxiety, stress and blood pressure. Remember to breath add some self-care to your life.
Every parent has made mistakes. Every child makes mistakes. Every parent has had an argument with their child and every child has argued with their parents. This is to be human. Talk about it and if you can’t, write a letter about it so they know how you feel. Forgive each other this will allow you to be more open.
Remember forgiveness and healing is a choice. It’s the best form of love. It takes a strong person to say your sorry and stronger person to forgive.