by Kayla Myers, Peer Support Coordinator
January 28, 2025
As a peer supporter, I’ve seen how empowering it can be when someone takes control of their own story and their own journey toward healing. The national “I Am in Control Day” is a reminder for all of us. Whether we are supporting others or working on our own personal growth, we have the ability to take charge of our lives, make choices, and advocate for what we need. It’s a day to celebrate our strength and remind ourselves that, no matter the circumstances, we have the power to harness and create positive change.
“I Am in Control Day” is an annual observance dedicated to raising awareness about the importance of self-empowerment, self-advocacy, and the ability to take control of our mental, physical, and emotional well-being. It’s a day to reflect on the power of choice and the freedom we have to take charge of our lives, no matter where we are in our journey.
For those of us in the peer support community, this day holds special significance. It’s a reminder that the work we do is not just about providing assistance or guidance. It’s about helping people recognize and harness their own strength. We’re not here to “fix” others, but to walk alongside them as they find the courage to make their own decisions and take control of their healing process.
One of the most powerful aspects of being a peer supporter is that we get to witness people making choices that directly impact their well-being. Whether it’s seeking therapy, starting a new hobby, setting healthy boundaries, or simply reaching out for support. These choices are significant steps toward reclaiming control. It’s important to acknowledge that taking control doesn’t mean everything will go perfectly or that we’ll have all the answers. Control isn’t about perfection. It’s about having a network, feeling like we have a say in what happens to us, and recognizing that even small steps forward are powerful.
As a family peer supporter, I make it a point to empower those I work with to see the value in their decisions, no matter how small they may seem. I help them understand that they’re the ones in the driver’s seat. And, more importantly, that it’s okay to ask for help and that reaching out is a form of strength, not weakness.
One of the key aspects of “I Am in Control Day” is remembering that we control our own narratives. In many areas of life, society can try to define us based on our circumstances, struggles, or setbacks. But we don’t have to accept those labels or limitations. We are not our struggles. We are not defined by our past. We are who we choose to be in this moment, and we have the power to shape our future. In peer support, I encourage others to reflect on how they view themselves. I ask them to consider what they want their narrative to be, rather than what others may have told them it should be. This doesn’t mean erasing the challenges we’ve faced but rather reframing them. When recognizing it this way, the way we respond to adversity is what truly defines us.
Self-advocacy is another key element of “ I Am in Control Day”. Being able to speak up for our needs, set boundaries, and assert ourselves is an essential part of taking control. For many people, this is a difficult skill to develop, especially when they’ve been told their needs don’t matter or they’ve been conditioned to put others first. As a peer supporter, one of my most important roles is to help people build self-advocacy skills. I work with them on how to communicate their needs clearly and confidently, and how to advocate for the support, resources, and care they deserve. This could be as simple as asking for time off when they’re overwhelmed or seeking professional help when they need it. Self-advocacy is about recognizing your worth and standing up for yourself when it’s time to do so.
“I Am in Control Day” is more than just a day for awareness; it’s a call to action. It’s an opportunity to reflect on how we can take control of our lives and inspire others to do the same. It reminds us that our power is within us, and we have the ability to make choices that lead to healing, growth, and well-being. As a peer supporter, I’ve seen how transformative it can be when someone realizes they have the power to control their story. I’ve seen people take their first steps toward recovery, speak up for the help they need, and, most importantly, believe in themselves. On “ I Am in Control Day”, I encourage everyone to take a moment to reflect on their own journey, acknowledge their strength, and celebrate the choices that have empowered them.
So, whether you’re someone receiving support or someone offering it, take this day as a reminder that you are in control. You have the power to take charge of your well-being, shape your own narrative, and advocate for yourself. And as a peer supporter, I’ll continue to walk alongside you, cheering you on every step of the way.
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